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In another unicorn of dating experiences, the guy who ghosted me after sex wound up un-ghosting me. He’s divorced and realized that he wasn’t ready to be in a serious relationship yet, and admitted that he had his own patterns he needed to work on, like, for instance, withdrawing.
We talked about what had happened, and he explained why he’d been out of touch. While it was extremely helpful and comforting to hear that from him, I can’t count on this always happening.
And given " instead of what I usually do: sobbing uncontrollably while manically downloading meditation apps. I expect that I will continue to for some time to come, if not forever.
But between my therapist who helps me question my negative beliefs, my friends who keep telling me to not take things personally, and my own relentless work on myself to shake loose from these painful storylines, I’m making some progress.
Because I’ve felt repeatedly hurt and rejected so many times by men who weren’t capable of being in healthy, nurturing relationships, I’ve internalized the (untrue) belief that love is something that’s for other people, but won’t ever work out for me.
Now, when a guy effusively expresses interest in me then abruptly changes his mind or ghosts after sex, I can think about how it’s likely that given his particular emotional wounds, he hit a wall for intimacy and had to retreat.
But there are two techniques that can sometimes give me a little bit of distance from my internal storylines. First, when I start hearing those voices in my head saying (OK, more like shouting), ""Second, when I’m trying to consider other possible explanations for why a guy bailed or ghosted or cut and ran, I could, in trying to comfort myself, decide that he’s just an asshole.
But I remind myself that most people are pretty wounded from childhood and past relationships, and they're going around acting out their wounds on each other.
After being ghosted and dealing with canceled dates, I found myself crying over random dudes.
It’s exhausting, but moving past these feelings is a process.